Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
You're Probably Doing Self-Care Backwards
Way too often I hear the phrase “take care of yourself” said to someone after they’ve gotten stressed out. That’s all wrong. Self-care...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Apr 1, 2019
- 5 min
Dillon’s Story - Why Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 2).
Dillon called me a little over two years after his breakup. He was dating someone new and they were beginning to talk about getting...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Apr 1, 2019
- 3 min
Why Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 1)
One of our greatest coping skills when we’re overwhelmed is to shutdown (a freeze response). Without safety and support to heal from such...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Mar 25, 2019
- 3 min
Your Intentions Matter, But Not More Than Your Impact
“I don’t give a damn what you meant by it. You’re being an asshole!” Does that sound familiar? One of the greatest truths I hope you can...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Mar 18, 2019
- 3 min
I’m Not Reading Your Mind. 4 Things You Should Know About Good Therapy/ Therapists
I don’t know for certain that there aren’t psychics in the world… ...But I know for certain that I’m not one. I also know that over the...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Mar 11, 2019
- 4 min
9 Strategies To Help A Loved One Reclaim Their Agency After Trauma
To have Agency is to have access to choices, control over your actions, and to have a belief that you can choose to act in ways that are...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Mar 4, 2019
- 3 min
7 Lessons On Keeping Hope Alive While Healing From Sexual Assault
If it doesn’t go perfectly, and according to plan then it’s happening all wrong. If it isn’t coming easy then I must not be good enough....
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Feb 25, 2019
- 4 min
5 Ways To Help Your Loved One Endure Healing From Sexual Assault
When it comes to healing from sexual violence there is no such thing as a quick fix. There are no late night infomercials holding the...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Feb 18, 2019
- 4 min
9 Realistic Expectations About Sexual Assault You Need to Know to Support a Survivor
There’s a common saying among folks who are experienced in supporting sexual assault survivors: “If you don’t know someone who has...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Feb 11, 2019
- 4 min
Do You Realize How Your Fear of Failure Keeps You From Moving Forward?
For the past six months Connor had spent one hour a week on my couch. In that time he’d gotten a job, gotten back in to school, started...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Sep 11, 2018
- 3 min
'What' is the Antidote to the Poison of 'Why'
“Stop asking Why and start asking What.” That has turned in to my mantra in almost every session with my individual psychotherapy clients....
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Sep 4, 2018
- 4 min
Courageous Vulnerability
Some moments tip the balance of our lives more than others, and few more so than how we are treated in our moments of vulnerability. This...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- May 6, 2018
- 5 min
The Un-Wholly Power of Judgements
Judgements hurt the most when they come from the people we respect and trust the most. If they won’t believe and validate us, we tend to...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Apr 17, 2018
- 4 min
When You Push Me to Heal You’re Just Pushing Me Away.
As a therapist working primarily with folks who’ve experienced some type of interpersonal violence (assaults of all kinds) I regularly...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Dec 29, 2017
- 4 min
Don’t Rape – The Title to a Book We Don’t Read to Our Children
There are certain things that most of us get taught as children. To name a few - Don’t kill. Don’t steal. Don’t cheat. Don’t rape. Not...
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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC
- Dec 19, 2017
- 7 min
Being There – Effectively Supporting Your Loved One to Heal from Sexual Assault
It’s a world-wide epidemic. Everyone I have ever cared about has been impacted in some way by sexual violence. Everyone you have ever...
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