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You're Probably Doing Self-Care Backwards

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Apr 9, 20195 min read

You're Probably Doing Self-Care Backwards

Way too often I hear the phrase “take care of yourself” said to someone after they’ve gotten stressed out. That’s all wrong. Self-care...

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Dillon’s Story - Why Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 2).

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Apr 1, 20195 min read

Dillon’s Story - Why Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 2).

Dillon called me a little over two years after his breakup. He was dating someone new and they were beginning to talk about getting...

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Why Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 1)

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Apr 1, 20193 min read

Why Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 1)

One of our greatest coping skills when we’re overwhelmed is to shutdown (a freeze response). Without safety and support to heal from such...

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Your Intentions Matter, But Not More Than Your Impact

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Mar 25, 20193 min read

Your Intentions Matter, But Not More Than Your Impact

“I don’t give a damn what you meant by it. You’re being an asshole!” Does that sound familiar? One of the greatest truths I hope you can...

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I’m Not Reading Your Mind. 4 Things You Should Know About Good Therapy/ Therapists

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Mar 18, 20193 min read

I’m Not Reading Your Mind. 4 Things You Should Know About Good Therapy/ Therapists

I don’t know for certain that there aren’t psychics in the world… ...But I know for certain that I’m not one. I also know that over the...

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9 Strategies To Help A Loved One Reclaim Their Agency After Trauma

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Mar 11, 20194 min read

9 Strategies To Help A Loved One Reclaim Their Agency After Trauma

To have Agency is to have access to choices, control over your actions, and to have a belief that you can choose to act in ways that are...

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7 Lessons On Keeping Hope Alive While Healing From Sexual Assault

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Mar 4, 20193 min read

7 Lessons On Keeping Hope Alive While Healing From Sexual Assault

If it doesn’t go perfectly, and according to plan then it’s happening all wrong. If it isn’t coming easy then I must not be good enough....

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5 Ways To Help Your Loved One Endure Healing From Sexual Assault

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Feb 25, 20194 min read

5 Ways To Help Your Loved One Endure Healing From Sexual Assault

When it comes to healing from sexual violence there is no such thing as a quick fix. There are no late night infomercials holding the...

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9 Realistic Expectations About Sexual Assault You Need to Know to Support a Survivor

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Feb 18, 20194 min read

9 Realistic Expectations About Sexual Assault You Need to Know to Support a Survivor

There’s a common saying among folks who are experienced in supporting sexual assault survivors: “If you don’t know someone who has...

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Do You Realize How Your Fear of Failure Keeps You From Moving Forward?

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Feb 11, 20194 min read

Do You Realize How Your Fear of Failure Keeps You From Moving Forward?

For the past six months Connor had spent one hour a week on my couch. In that time he’d gotten a job, gotten back in to school, started...

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'What' is the Antidote to the Poison of 'Why'

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Sep 11, 20183 min read

'What' is the Antidote to the Poison of 'Why'

“Stop asking Why and start asking What.” That has turned in to my mantra in almost every session with my individual psychotherapy clients....

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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Sep 4, 20184 min read

Courageous Vulnerability

Some moments tip the balance of our lives more than others, and few more so than how we are treated in our moments of vulnerability. This...

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Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

May 6, 20185 min read

The Un-Wholly Power of Judgements

Judgements hurt the most when they come from the people we respect and trust the most. If they won’t believe and validate us, we tend to...

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When You Push Me to Heal You’re Just Pushing Me Away.

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Apr 17, 20184 min read

When You Push Me to Heal You’re Just Pushing Me Away.

As a therapist working primarily with folks who’ve experienced some type of interpersonal violence (assaults of all kinds) I regularly...

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Don’t Rape – The Title to a Book We Don’t Read to Our Children

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Dec 29, 20174 min read

Don’t Rape – The Title to a Book We Don’t Read to Our Children

There are certain things that most of us get taught as children. To name a few - Don’t kill. Don’t steal. Don’t cheat. Don’t rape. Not...

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Being There – Effectively Supporting Your Loved One to Heal from Sexual Assault

Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCC

Dec 19, 20177 min read

Being There – Effectively Supporting Your Loved One to Heal from Sexual Assault

It’s a world-wide epidemic. Everyone I have ever cared about has been impacted in some way by sexual violence. Everyone you have ever...

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