Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCApr 9, 20195 minYou're Probably Doing Self-Care BackwardsWay too often I hear the phrase “take care of yourself” said to someone after they’ve gotten stressed out. That’s all wrong. Self-care...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCApr 1, 20195 minDillon’s Story - Why Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 2).Dillon called me a little over two years after his breakup. He was dating someone new and they were beginning to talk about getting...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCApr 1, 20193 minWhy Therapy Can Make Things Feel Worse Before They Feel Better (Part 1)One of our greatest coping skills when we’re overwhelmed is to shutdown (a freeze response). Without safety and support to heal from such...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCMar 25, 20193 minYour Intentions Matter, But Not More Than Your Impact“I don’t give a damn what you meant by it. You’re being an asshole!” Does that sound familiar? One of the greatest truths I hope you can...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCMar 18, 20193 minI’m Not Reading Your Mind. 4 Things You Should Know About Good Therapy/ TherapistsI don’t know for certain that there aren’t psychics in the world… ...But I know for certain that I’m not one. I also know that over the...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCMar 11, 20194 min9 Strategies To Help A Loved One Reclaim Their Agency After TraumaTo have Agency is to have access to choices, control over your actions, and to have a belief that you can choose to act in ways that are...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCMar 4, 20193 min7 Lessons On Keeping Hope Alive While Healing From Sexual AssaultIf it doesn’t go perfectly, and according to plan then it’s happening all wrong. If it isn’t coming easy then I must not be good enough....
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCFeb 25, 20194 min5 Ways To Help Your Loved One Endure Healing From Sexual AssaultWhen it comes to healing from sexual violence there is no such thing as a quick fix. There are no late night infomercials holding the...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCFeb 18, 20194 min9 Realistic Expectations About Sexual Assault You Need to Know to Support a SurvivorThere’s a common saying among folks who are experienced in supporting sexual assault survivors: “If you don’t know someone who has...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCFeb 11, 20194 minDo You Realize How Your Fear of Failure Keeps You From Moving Forward?For the past six months Connor had spent one hour a week on my couch. In that time he’d gotten a job, gotten back in to school, started...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCSep 11, 20183 min'What' is the Antidote to the Poison of 'Why'“Stop asking Why and start asking What.” That has turned in to my mantra in almost every session with my individual psychotherapy clients....
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCSep 4, 20184 minCourageous VulnerabilitySome moments tip the balance of our lives more than others, and few more so than how we are treated in our moments of vulnerability. This...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCMay 6, 20185 minThe Un-Wholly Power of JudgementsJudgements hurt the most when they come from the people we respect and trust the most. If they won’t believe and validate us, we tend to...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCApr 17, 20184 minWhen You Push Me to Heal You’re Just Pushing Me Away.As a therapist working primarily with folks who’ve experienced some type of interpersonal violence (assaults of all kinds) I regularly...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCDec 29, 20174 minDon’t Rape – The Title to a Book We Don’t Read to Our ChildrenThere are certain things that most of us get taught as children. To name a few - Don’t kill. Don’t steal. Don’t cheat. Don’t rape. Not...
Hudson Wilkins, MA, LPCCDec 19, 20177 minBeing There – Effectively Supporting Your Loved One to Heal from Sexual AssaultIt’s a world-wide epidemic. Everyone I have ever cared about has been impacted in some way by sexual violence. Everyone you have ever...