Way too often I hear the phrase “take care of yourself” said to someone after they’ve gotten stressed out. That’s all wrong. Self-care ...

Dillon called me a little over two years after his breakup. He was dating someone new and they were beginning to talk about getting marr...

One of our greatest coping skills when we’re overwhelmed is to shutdown (a freeze response). Without safety and support to heal from such...

“I don’t give a damn what you meant by it. You’re being an asshole!” Does that sound familiar? One of the greatest truths I hope you can...

I don’t know for certain that there aren’t psychics in the world… ...But I know for certain that I’m not one. I also know that over the l...

To have Agency is to have access to choices, control over your actions, and to have a belief that you can choose to act in ways that are ...

If it doesn’t go perfectly, and according to plan then it’s happening all wrong. If it isn’t coming easy then I must not be good enough. ...

When it comes to healing from sexual violence there is no such thing as a quick fix. There are no late night infomercials holding the ma...

There’s a common saying among folks who are experienced in supporting sexual assault survivors: “If you don’t know someone who has experi...

For the past six months Connor had spent one hour a week on my couch. In that time he’d gotten a job, gotten back in to school, started ...

“Stop asking Why and start asking What.” That has turned in to my mantra in almost every session with my individual psychotherapy clients...

Some moments tip the balance of our lives more than others, and few more so than how we are treated in our moments of vulnerability. This...

Judgements hurt the most when they come from the people we respect and trust the most. If they won’t believe and validate us, we tend to...

As a therapist working primarily with folks who’ve experienced some type of interpersonal violence (assaults of all kinds) I regularly he...

There are certain things that most of us get taught as children. To name a few - Don’t kill. Don’t steal. Don’t cheat. Don’t rape. Not s...

It’s a world-wide epidemic. Everyone I have ever cared about has been impacted in some way by sexual violence. Everyone you have ever c...