Way too often I hear the phrase “take care of yourself” said to someone after they’ve gotten stressed out. That’s all wrong. Self-care is supposed to come ...

Dillon called me a little over two years after his breakup. He was dating someone new and they were beginning to talk about getting married. When we first s...

One of our greatest coping skills when we’re overwhelmed is to shutdown (a freeze response). Without safety and support to heal from such an experience it ca...

“I don’t give a damn what you meant by it. You’re being an asshole!” Does that sound familiar? One of the greatest truths I hope you can learn is that two s...

I don’t know for certain that there aren’t psychics in the world… ...But I know for certain that I’m not one. I also know that over the last decade as a ment...

When it comes to healing from sexual violence there is no such thing as a quick fix. There are no late night infomercials holding the magic secret. No thera...

For the past six months Connor had spent one hour a week on my couch. In that time he’d gotten a job, gotten back in to school, started meditating, exercisi...

“Stop asking Why and start asking What.” That has turned in to my mantra in almost every session with my individual psychotherapy clients. Every single pers...

Some moments tip the balance of our lives more than others, and few more so than how we are treated in our moments of vulnerability. This vulnerability balan...

Judgements hurt the most when they come from the people we respect and trust the most. If they won’t believe and validate us, we tend to have a hard time va...

As a therapist working primarily with folks who’ve experienced some type of interpersonal violence (assaults of all kinds) I regularly hear from folks that t...

It’s a world-wide epidemic. Everyone I have ever cared about has been impacted in some way by sexual violence. Everyone you have ever cared about has been ...